Words for the troubled

Hey guys. =]

This blog hasn’t exactly been “active,” but I’m going to try and come on here more often from now on. So I’m sorry if there were some questions that you asked with no one here to answer, but now I’ll do my best. =]

~Roxy

Anonymous asked: Hi,

Hello. :) 

Sorry nobody’s been on in awhile. I just answered a few asks and there’s still a few more. :P How are you? <3

Anonymous asked: Me and my bf had sex once and that was in the beginning of August without any protection. I used to exercise a lot, but I moved to a different country in august and I didn't have the ability to continue doing that. I have been gaining 8 kg since I moved, but I have been thinking its because I don't exercise anymore. I haven't got my period since, but I haven't been noticing that until like right now. I can't mentally cant have a baby, or do an abortion. I'm panicking, what are I'm going to do?

Hi sweetie. :)

I’m not sure how long ago you sent this ask because there hasn’t been anyone on here for awhile. But in case this was recent:

I do suggest buying a pregnancy tester. That’s the only way you can know for sure.

Best wishes and I hope everything will be okay. <3

~Roxy <333

My advice column: http://ask-roxy-column.tumblr.com

Anonymous asked: i want to make new friends but im shy. i dont really know how to start and continue a conversation because 1) im not sure if people wanna talk to me 2) i think they think im boring. but when i do get along with someone im overly confident. i just dont know where to find new friends because i feel like my current friends and i are becoming different people. and even at school most of the ppl like me but they wouldnt take time out of their day to chill with me.

Hi sweetie. :)

I understand exactly how you feel. I felt the same way at one point in time. Try to think in advance of things to say. A few good examples would be: school, favourite movies/music/etc, hobbies, and even weather. Just ask them about themselves and you won’t have to do as much talking. Then, they will start to ask you similar questions, and it will be easy to give them answers without overdoing or under-doing it.

Sometimes, it can be really hard to find friends, but there’s somebody out there who’s really going to love you for who you are. :)

Best wishes babe,

~Roxy <3

My advice column: http://ask-roxy-column.tumblr.com

Anonymous asked: I've always been extremely depressed and suicidal. It started when I was around 7. I finally stopped the suicide attempts a few years ago because a friend made me promise, but I lost contact with her and everyone else once I got to college. I have plenty of friends here, but no one notices just how horribly depressed I am. I don't hide it, and I'm honest when people ask me, but people don't ask. I just feel so impossibly alone and isolated and I don't know how to function or continue like this.

You aren’t alone, I promise. Things are really hard right now, and I know you feel like you have no one, but you have me, and so many other people who honestly care about you even though they might not seem like they do. 

You need to ask for some help, love, you don’t have to do this alone, and everyone needs help sometimes. Tell someone how you feel, talk to your doctor and tell them how you feel. You don’t need to feel this way, things can get better, and they can change.

-Ash <3

Anonymous asked: I met this guy and i like him a lot. I talk about him 24/7 with all my friends. I got his number and 2 weeks ago we started talking like everyday. One day when we were talking and I'm like So i wanna come up to you and give you a hug in school is that ok? And he's like: No, I'm ashamed of you. I immediately started tearing up. Then he said: "I think you're pretty and i like you but my friends don't think your pretty and if you talk to me in school you'll embarrass me. Whats should i do?

I don’t think he deserves you, honestly, because if he was a real man and he really liked you as much as he says he does, then he wouldn’t be ashamed to be with you but instead show you off because he wants to be with you. You deserve someone so much better then that, and he doesnt deserve you. 

You’ll find someone great one day, I promise,  but he just doesn’t sound like a great guy.

-Ash <3

Anonymous asked: so ive been talking to this guy all summer and we had plans to hangout yesterday, i was really excited and told my best friends and one of my best friends used to like him but they never dated or anything and she seemed cool with the fact that we were hanging out, then suddenly she decided she likes him again ? and anyway we were texting saturday (the day we were gonna hangout) and he says 'brb ill text ya after!' so i was like oh ok, turns out he was hanging out with my best friends:(

I’m so sorry honey, but if you really like him maybe you need to take some initiative and tell him before she tells him her feelings. Besides, even if he doesn’t return your feelings, its sometimes good to just admit to that person that you like them.

-Ash <3

Anonymous asked: hi theres this new girl in my school and she is so pretty she started a day ago and shes in most of my classes i dont really mind her but she is in one of my lessons which my crush is in also and im so insecure about it because he wasnt in school yesterday but he will most probably be in on monday and i have a lesson with both of them in the same class and im scared that hes going to like her :( i dont know what to do and i think he kinda likes me abit but not 100percent sure.

Hey hun. :)

Don’t worry too much about it hun!

Whatever is meant to be will happen. :D I say that allot, but it’s true. If he’s meant to be with you, love will always find a way.

There’s not much you can do about it so just take a deep breath and see how things go.

Take care hun! <3

~Roxy XD

My advice column: http://ask-roxy-column.tumblr.com

Anonymous asked: My home, college, work and social life are all failing. As horrid as it sounds it's because of how unhappy I am with my girlfriend. I care about her and I really like and admire her but I'm not in love with her. I've tried to talk to her about this but when we came close to breaking-up she took a razor to her neck and attempted suicide. I'm terrified for what will happen if I break up with her but I don't want us to be stuck in a loveless relationship. I don't know what to do anymore.

Hey there. :)

If you aren’t in love with her anymore, then I do think it would be the best idea for both of you to move on. But as you said, that might be kind of hard for her…

Has she ever done anything like this before? Does she have any type of mental illness (depression, anxiety, etc)? The reason I ask is because it may be possible that she’s trying to (more or less) “force” you into staying in a relationship with her.

Do you know any of her close friends/relatives? Try talking with one of them. Tell them that you know she deserves the best, and this just didn’t work out. (Note: make sure you emphasize that you want the best to happen for the both of you; you don’t want to get on anyone’s bad side).

I’m sure you’ll find a way for her to not get hurt. Just try and access your situation and take things one step at a time.

Good luck dear. :)

~Roxy :DDD

My advice column: http://ask-roxy-column.tumblr.com